Are there more narrow minded or open minded individuals in the world? I suppose this question is almost directly related to religious and cultural beliefs etc. When one begins to look at the big picture, Christians and Muslims probably make up most of the world's religious beliefs. However, that does not say that all of those people are as narrow minded as one would normally assume~given their views on so many different issues.
I am raising this question based on the amount of gay male Asian friends that I have, friends who will be closeted to their families for eternity at the risk of offending or disappointing or hurting their parents because they are gay~It's not like it is in the US or Canada, gay individuals will lose their families, their friends and their jobs, simply because they are gay. Perhaps this still occurs in some small communities of the US and Canada, but, it is the norm in Korea.
I have one Korean friend who is 'out' to his parents and they support him; however, they also think he is sick and hope that one day he will get better, meet the right girl, settle down and get married. We complain about our lives of living secretly as gay men, but, deep down we know that most of us will be supported by those that we love despite being gay.
In Korea, deep down, on the surface, slightly under the surface and in their faces~it's clear and it's obvious~IF YOU ARE GAY, YOU DO NOT EXIST. In fact, many Koreans believe that homosexuality does not exist and it's understandable to see how they might think that. They cast off those that are gay, often choosing to never communicate with them again and the others remain so deeply in the closet, that their homosexuality does not exist past their secret gay worlds. I can assure you, homosexuality is alive and well in Korea. Even for the foreigners, we risk being terminated from our jobs, if anyone were to find out that we are gay; however, many of us have the comfort of knowing that our friends and families will support us regardless.
I came out in Korea, of all places, it has definitely been an interesting experience but I have received so much love and support from my gay, bi and straight friends and family~both Western and Korean. Yes, I even have straight male Korean friends who know I am gay and love me anyway. It is because of these straight Korean men who love me that I have faith that perhaps, there are more open minded people in the world than there are narrow minded.
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